Thank you for all of this great information. It is not good to have a straight person (esp. a cis white man) speaking for any part of the queer community, and making decisions about how we should act or be in the world. I fully agree that Preston needs a new job, the sooner the better.
The conference in St Louis will feature at least one non-binary speaker. Missouri has banned gender affirming care for children, which will inevitably impact adults access to it as well.
I have an unrelated to the conference and Revoice question. What are your thoughts on asexual people using Side A/B language? I've never seen it used, in my community. Asexual people will state whether they are celibate or not, and find it important to distinguish the choice of celibacy from the born lack of sexual attraction that makes us asexual. We state, as you do, that individuals can make the choice to be celibate, but there are asexual people who like having sex with others or will have sex (in varying amounts) for various reasons. Some, though are in QPRs or even marriages (where both partners have chosen celibacy), and I haven't heard Side A/B used.
I am really hesitant to say how ace spectrum people should or do relate to Side A/B language. I can say that historically, the "conversation" between A and B has mostly ignored Ace spectrum people.
With that said, I tend toward the view that it is a good idea to restrict use of Side A / Side B to only referencing a conviction on the sinfulness of gay sex as such. Following the logic by which I identify as Side A only because I am gay and not because I am trans, I am inclined towards the idea that Ace people might choose to refrain from identifying with a Side and instead use "affirming"/"non-affirming" language. With that said I am not going to comdemn an Ace spectrum person who uses Side language, particularly if there is some element of homosexual or homoromantic desire in their mix.
I think often, Ace people have to convince people that they have sex (when they do) than to convince that they don't have it. Asexual people are ignored a lot. Thanks for your perspective. I did a quick Google search after asking, because it was just an anomaly in my head. It does not seem to be used by Ace people.
Thank you for all of this great information. It is not good to have a straight person (esp. a cis white man) speaking for any part of the queer community, and making decisions about how we should act or be in the world. I fully agree that Preston needs a new job, the sooner the better.
The conference in St Louis will feature at least one non-binary speaker. Missouri has banned gender affirming care for children, which will inevitably impact adults access to it as well.
I have an unrelated to the conference and Revoice question. What are your thoughts on asexual people using Side A/B language? I've never seen it used, in my community. Asexual people will state whether they are celibate or not, and find it important to distinguish the choice of celibacy from the born lack of sexual attraction that makes us asexual. We state, as you do, that individuals can make the choice to be celibate, but there are asexual people who like having sex with others or will have sex (in varying amounts) for various reasons. Some, though are in QPRs or even marriages (where both partners have chosen celibacy), and I haven't heard Side A/B used.
Thanks for the update on St. Louis.
I am really hesitant to say how ace spectrum people should or do relate to Side A/B language. I can say that historically, the "conversation" between A and B has mostly ignored Ace spectrum people.
With that said, I tend toward the view that it is a good idea to restrict use of Side A / Side B to only referencing a conviction on the sinfulness of gay sex as such. Following the logic by which I identify as Side A only because I am gay and not because I am trans, I am inclined towards the idea that Ace people might choose to refrain from identifying with a Side and instead use "affirming"/"non-affirming" language. With that said I am not going to comdemn an Ace spectrum person who uses Side language, particularly if there is some element of homosexual or homoromantic desire in their mix.
I think often, Ace people have to convince people that they have sex (when they do) than to convince that they don't have it. Asexual people are ignored a lot. Thanks for your perspective. I did a quick Google search after asking, because it was just an anomaly in my head. It does not seem to be used by Ace people.
Thank you for that. And please always feel free to call out an ace or aro spectrum erasure on my part. I want to be better about it.